who is a good coach?
Unlike psychotherapy, coaching assumes that clients have sufficient emotional integration to function fully and that they focus on the life they want to create rather than on fixing what’s wrong. A good coaching client treats themselves as a person whose life has a unique value on its own, instead of as a machine that makes money and takes care of others. A good coach would help a client set goals with intrinsic value that will bring them authentic joy and passion, rather than the objectives they may believe they should accomplish.
Anyone who coaches operates from a position of teacher and could easily become a model for coachee. A good coach knows their principles, but they will never project their truths onto coachees, committing to their work in teaching by providing experience without transferable material. That material, the insight, the understanding, and the willingness to act should always come from the client’s own realization. This is why people who have good coaches are more self-actualized than the average psychotherapy client. Self-actualized clients need a fully realized coach with a mature consciousness who will bear a skillful observer, a witness of their life unconcealment.
Young coaches — and “young” is meant to suggest the life journey, and not the age or length of professional experience — they only care about winnings. These are the success-oriented coaches who say they can get their clients better jobs, bodies, brains, and relationships. All of them are material coaches, even when they talk about mindfulness and regular meditation practices. They use excitement by the hips, prowling the sidelines, screaming at their coachee, and refuse to alter the elegant techniques they learned in their training programs. Producing a discernible result, they make life miserable in general for themselves and their clients. Unfortunately, material coaches are also the most noticeable in the marketplace.
An older coach will know that winning is not everything. They will encourage the coachee to do what nurtures them, teach the client how to develop intuition, and strengthen self-expression skills, fostering their will for joy. A coach aims to build the coachee’s level of awareness and self-responsibility based on the client’s core values, providing structure, support, and feedback. It is crucial that the inquiries be those of the client and that the coach doesn’t take on a mentor’s role. Good coach connects to the client’s essence with silent appreciation and affirmation of who that person is as a being. They meet their coachees at the level of their ability, however humble, and remain on the sidelines.
why coach introspection?
experts of fear and confusion
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what is introspection?
Embracing spontaneity and inner genius, we can reshape notions and know ourselves intimately. This self-knowledge lets us create our lives rather than follow others' expectations. Introspection through mindful inquiry illuminates our inner world. It helps us examine our beliefs, find our voice, and integrate our notions with outer reality. We can understand our roles and personalities, and the difference between our self-perception and others' views.
In this letter, I explore the metaphor of a heron overcoming self-doubt and resistance to take flight and follow its dreams. Though facing storms and setbacks, the Heron battles an inner voice of doubt, represented by a croaking frog, which it ultimately silences by devouring. It relates this to doing meaningful creative work by outlining principles from Steven Pressfield's 'The War of Art' and “Do the Work.” We must engage with resistance and persist despite difficulty to ship creative and entrepreneurial work. This letter also relates the Heron's journey to Le Guin's 'The Eye of the Heron'. Just as the Heron achieves flight through courage and determination, we realize our potential by battling resistance and completing our work.
why coach introspection?
Introspection, while potentially yielding valuable self-knowledge, may also lead to self-obsession and chronic rumination. Our culture often emphasizes objectivity and causality, hindering a more open, phenomenological inquiry into ourselves. Shifting toward a "resolving" approach and embracing paradoxical ideas can offer a more constructive path to self-understanding.
By shifting our perspective on history and embracing the present, we can unlock our true potential and break free from self-imposed limitations. Discover the transformative conversations with the Catalyst, a psychological coaching that helps individuals overcome fear and resistance, embrace their unique perspectives, and create better futures for themselves and others.