transferring journey to companionship
loneliness that serves both the achievement of personhood and the quality of any relationship … the more one can embrace one’s separateness, the more one can live with oneself, the better relationship will be … a healthy relationship is only possible if one is able to come to the table as an individuating isolate. When I try to avoid my journey by transferring it to another, when I capitulate to the fear of loneliness, then I not only violate the unique meaning of my life which it is my summons to achieve, I also burden the one I profess to love.
only in the radical experience of myself as other - other than my parents, other than you, other than even the one I was - am I able to experience the often tenifying but always enriching abundance of life.
“Loneliness is not necessarily inimical to companionship, for no one is more sensitive to companionship than the lonely man, and companionship thrives only when each individual remembers his individuality and does not identify himself with others” - Wilhelm Reich James Hillman Memoies, Dreams, Reflections, p.356.